Some days ago, I picked up this book titled How to Talk so kids will listen & Listen so kids will talk as there were unanswered questions in my mind about why people respond in a particular manner to me although the intentions were good and straight forward. The answers came searching me from the pages of this book of Faber and Mazlish. I wasn't listening.

I wasn't listening enough. I wasn't listening to the unspoken words. I wasn't listening to the underlying feelings when people responded. You may think people, in general, have hard time communicating with words, particularly of a foreign nature. Of course there is a point in your thinking. India being such a diverse country we often hide behind this alien language called English while communicating amongst the multi-language people at work. But that is not the point I am talking about here. People simply have difficulty in communicating their true feelings.

At home and in school we have grown up being denied our right to have our own feelings. I have often sat in silence particularly in the past nine months to introspect about my thoughts, desires, and other emotions. It has been a hard journey and I still continue to be the biggest puzzle to solve for myself. However, there are truths finding me along this wonderful journey of discovery of life. How many times have I had difficulty in expressing my true inner self to others, especially when covered my emotions. Try as I might to overcome my emotions my attempts have only pushed me deeper into stronger emotional situations. Therefore, as taught by my Guru Vethathiri Maharishi I tried to merely understand my feelings and thoughts. I have begun to understand myself better and better. As I listened more the mind listened to my talks more and more. Can you believe that? Can you believe THAT? The little monkey like mind of mine kept jumping up and down branch to branch immediately settled down to listen to me as I listened to it myself! So, it is only logical that if I listened to the unsaid implied feelings of people and acknowledged them they will surely listen to my ideas. That is a good theory. It still had to put to test. I put that to test. To my amazement, I have been having some wonderful results for the past few days.

As I look back to the years of my life success has often found me easy when I listened and then talked in a way that made others listen to me. Therefore, I have decided to share some of the secrets of my success to you through these pages. Look out for more.

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I Am New,
Krish Murali Eswar.