Avoid

1. Blaming and accusing
“Can’t you ever listen to me?... How many times do I have to repeat myself?”

2. Name-calling
“You eat like a dirty pig… Only animals make sound when they eat.”

3. Threats
“If you are getting ready in five minutes, I am leaving without you.”

4. Commands
“I want you to take your bed in the next five minutes. Hurry up.”

5. Lecturing and Moralizing
“Don’t you think it is better to blah blah blah...”

6. Warnings
“If you grow up like this you’ll suffer when you’re older… Put on your slipper, otherwise you’ll get infection…”