Instead to Punishment

1. Express your feelings strongly – without attacking character.
“I’m furious to know that you two are fighting again.”

2. State your expectations.
“I expect the two of you to resolve your differences without a fight.”

3. Show the child how to make amends.
“What this needs now is to sit and discuss with your sister.”

4. Give the child a choice.
“You can either resolve your differences or we find an external counselor who can help you two. Your choice.”

5. Take action.
“Why have you put us in two different rooms today?”
“You tell me why.”